Currently I am involved in consulting with organisations to aid them in developing and increasing their organisational effectivenes and focussing in on just what is it that makes a great versus mediocre leader. What was it for example that made Herb Kelleher [former CEO of South West Airlines] such a great leader who made people want to follow him.

Looking at great leaders from all walks of life we know intrinsically that they have ‘something makes people want to be around them and want to do their very best for them as a leader and for the organisation for which they work. Through continued breakthroughs in Neuro Science we now know that the brain acts as both a transmitting as well as a recieving organ – with respect to leadership the term "Social Intelligence" looks at the ability of a leader to cause the members of his/her team to cooperate, do their very best and ultimately improve the organisation.

Traditionally we would focus on the abilities of the leader [Emotional Intelligence] and of their skill level and competencies to be able to complete tasks but now; we are looking at how critically important Social Intelligence is to the qualities of a leader.

During this particular business trip I have spoken to over 1000 people on the topic of Social Intelligence and Leadership, it is my desire that I will be able to continue to use my consulting skills in new and fresh areas in order to improve organisational effectiveness and thereby help companies to generate more revenues.

How is your [or you managers] level of Social Intelligence and Leadership Abilities ? Do you think it could be worthwhile spending a couple of days away from day to day activities to look at how you can improve by getting to grips with this topic ??

If so – let me know, any comments ??

Stephen C Campbell [Punjab, North India]

What do you really want in life? Most people don’t discover what they want in life until it’s time to die – and that’s a shame. Most people spend the best years of their lives watching television or doing things they dislike.

An author described humanity by saying, “Most people die at twenty and are buried at eighty.” Are you one of the living zombies? What do you really want in life? Some people struggle in answering such question. When asked what they want or what their goals in life are, many are unsure. They dillydally in their decision, hardly giving any thought about what they want in life. People without definite goals are letting time pass them by. Are you one of these people? If you are undecided about what you want out of life, do not worry. There are many ways of discovering your purpose in life. To discover what you want in life, try looking deep into your heart. Oftentimes, people are ruled by logic. People live by what they think they should be or by what others like them to be. The discovery process is the perfect time to listen to your heart. What your heart desires comes from the whispers of your authentic self. Your authentic self is the real you.

Listen to your heart to be able to listen to your authentic self. What your heart says usually feels right. What your heart desires is what you usually love to do and this represents your passion. Anything done with passion is like play where the task is accomplished without hesitation. You pour out your very best and feel no pressure or resistance.

You will totally enjoy doing things that are your passion. Setbacks, difficulties, and obstacles will make it more challenging, but should not deter you from pursuing your goals. Naturally, there may be barriers that may prevent you from reaching your goal, but your heart’s desire will find ways to overcome these barriers so that you may ultimately get what you want in life. Remember this: the universe supports people who are pursuing their passion and those who are pursuing their destiny. However, this does not mean that you don’t use your head. People are born with both the mind and heart. Your duty is to live your best life and be in harmony with your mind and heart. The poet Rumi wisely said, “Live completely in the head and you cannot feel the breath and rhythm of life. Live completely in the heart and you may find yourself acting like a love-struck fool with poor judgment and discipline. It’s all a fine balance – the head and heart must forge a lifetime partnership if one wants to live a beautiful life.”

Listen to your instinct. Part of human nature is the mysterious and spontaneous reaction on things. Often times, these are called instincts. Your authentic self communicates with you and guides you via instincts. Instincts are those gentle nudges that urge you to act and follow a certain path. Your role then is to listen attentively. Often times, we listen to what others say and allow them to run our lives. Parents often do this to their children. “We come from a family of doctors, so my son must also be a doctor.” How often do we hear this from parents who have good intentions for their children? Parents unconsciously block the true expression of their child’s real self and calling. Friends and critics will discourage you and point out the impossibility of your dream. Before heeding their advice, evaluate the accomplishments of the critics. Did they achieve theirs dreams? Do they dream big at all?

Remember, it is your destiny that is in line, not theirs. It doesn’t mean, though, that you will not listen to what other people say. Hear them out just the same. But the final decision should be yours. There is only thing to remember: Every person, to live truly and greatly, must define how he wants to live and what his brightest life will look like.  Listen to your instincts and follow your heart’s desire. You will never go wrong.


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Stephen C Campbell