As Companies and Businesses as well as organisations of all kinds look for the competitive edge, we have seen that the traditional measure of competence i.e. IQ is not the only measure that is being used as means for hiring staff, developing leaders and ensuring that the future …

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… workers and leaders [i.e. the school children] have the necessary skills to give any organisation much needed competitive advantages.

I am currently in India rolling out a series of Organisational Effectiveness seminars throughout the country that will give leaders the tools to first, develop their own EQ competencies and then to be in a position to develop others in their organisations.

Of course Emotional Intelligence In The Workplace is receiving much attention today – why ? because ‘straight A’ individuals are being hired and managers are realising that the ability to be in touch with oneself [Emotional Intelligence] and correspondingly be able to influence and reach others [Social Intelligence] are some of the key skills that are needed today.

It is great to see that here in India leaders have seen the need for such competencies and I am glad to be here to use my skills to effectively assist in changing the world through promoting excellence via Emotional Intelligence.

Does your organisation need a little help from a different perspective ??

Get in touch and maybe we can together do something to improve your circumstance.

Stephen C Campbell [Kerala, SW India]


Impossible is Just a Word

 

Hello and welcome to this post, again I have been prompted to write this post based upon conversation I have with Friends, Family, Passers By and Business Associates. It is based on the fact that all of us at some point in our lives, have dreamed of :-

 

o Having more than we currently have

o Being more than we currently have and

o Doing more that we are currently doing

 

How many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships or working that dream job or even being the ‘captain of the ship’ running our very own business? Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic. This is a sad fact in all too many of our lives, Instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self actualization, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing. But life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung up thinking I can’t do this. It’s too hard. It’s too impossible. No one can do this. However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment. Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the bumble, bee no one has told it so. So fly it does. On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations. If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible. If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.

Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life. Under one header, list down things ‘you know you can do’. Under another header, write the things ‘you might be able to do.’ And under one more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for you to do.’ Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. Check them when you are able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’ As of the items you wrote under things I could do are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for you to do’ to the list of things ‘you might be able to do.’ As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the impossible begin to seem possible after all.

You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little. However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic. Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up disappointed and disillusioned this is because we often forget the MASSIVE ACTION which is often necessary in the accomplishment of our Goals. Yes, we start with the dreaming and then to turn that dream into reality we must act and sometimes act by working long hard hours.

Now just imagine if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.

Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be had work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one. Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”? That is as true as it can be.

 

So I would like to end here by encouraging you to dream of all that You-Can-Be and please do not get caught up with your perceived limitations. because they are just that. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible.

 

Wishing you all success

How Much Do You Complain? 


“Realize that if you have time to whine and complain about something, then you have the time to do something about it.”
– Anthony D’Angelo

 

I was giving a coaching session last week to a dear friend of mine, it was heartwarming when after much work he acknowledged that he was not taking charge of his situation and spending most of his time complaining. In relation to the quote above I would like you to think about your circumstance and those of the people around you (your friends, family, work colleagues etc) and consider the tone and theme of most of the conversations. I am willing to throw out a ‘bet to you that most of those conversations consist of quite a lot of complaining and sentiments that the current circumstances which are not to one’s liking is caused by someone else. i.e. the responsibility for one’s ‘world lies within other people’s hands.

 

Now let’s make this a bit more personal :- what do you do with your time? are you where you wish to be in/with your Relationships, Finances, Physical Self etc? and what are you doing to move yourself towards your ideal situation or circumstance.

 

This short post is to urge you to think about every conversation you have and be honest with yourself in relation to what you are doing every day to produce the life for yourself which you earn for deep down in your heart.

 

As the basis of my coaching focuses on Quantum Physics and the use of Subconscious Mind we do know that getting to grasp with these fundamentals will aid us in predicting our futures by creating it. Please do come back and read more and let me have your comments and feel free to sign up for the Self Development reports at You-Can-Be.Com.

 

To your continued success.