How Is Your Self Concept?  Part Of The Foundation To Your Self DevelopmentSo how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self concept in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to Self Development, this is written bearing in mind that we all live and interact in circumstances which may not be conducive to us growing and improving. The decision therefore has to made to avoid all things which weaken us as these all work to lower our Self Concept, a high and strong Self Concept being critical in underpinning our Self Development. Here are some examples :-

Negative Work Environment : Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self concept. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

Other People’s Behavior : Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self concept, as well as to your Self Development scheme.

Changing Environment : You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

Past Experience : It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Negative World View : Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self concept, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

Determination Theory : The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self concept and drawing lines for Self Development is a choice, not a rule or a talent.


In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.
Building self concept will eventually lead to Self Development if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self concept, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self concept brings about Self Development, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self concept? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self concept, your starter guide to Self Development.

 

That’s all for now, look forward to ‘speaking with you again.

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